In fact, many have started using the term “toxic positivity” to point out how toxic this way of dealing with unpleasant emotions actually is!
How do we experience “toxic positivity” in real life?
It often happens that someone who has lost a loved one and is grieving, is told by other people to “focus on good things in their life” or to “get over what is in the past”. Sometimes, they are even told to “be strong”. Although they may mean well, these sentences all give a message to that person to “stop grieving” or “stop being sad”.
On the other hand, research shows that, when a person is grieving, it is only healthy to let the unpleasant feelings be felt and expressed. Otherwise, it becomes impossible to recover from the loss, and the person will experience many difficulties in their day-to-day life for a very long time. By trying to repress negative feelings, participating in social events and continuing their daily life becomes a struggle.